Now that you have experienced a pregnancy loss you are probably feeling more sadness then you
ever thought possible. Having a miscarriage can be very difficult. The emotional impact can usually take longer to
heal than the physical impact. Allowing yourself to grieve the loss can help you come to accept it over time.
What are emotions I might feel after a miscarriage?
Women may experience a roller coaster of emotions such as numbness, disbelief, anger, guilt,
sadness, depression, and difficulty concentrating. Even if the pregnancy ended very early, the sense of bonding
between a mother and her baby can be strong. Some women even experience physical symptoms from their emotional
distress. These symptoms include: fatigue, trouble sleeping, difficulty concentrating, loss of appetite, and
frequent episodes of crying. The hormonal changes that occur after miscarriage may intensify these symptoms.
The Grief Process: What should I expect?
The grieving process involves three steps:
Step 1: Shock/Denial: "This really isn't happening; I've been taking good care
Step 2: Anger/Guilt/Depression: "Why me? If I would have..." "I've always
wanted a baby so bad, this isn't fair. I feel sadness in my life now more then ever."
Step 3: Acceptance: "I have to deal with it, I'm not the only one who has
experienced this. Other women have made it through this, maybe I should get some help."
Each step takes longer to go through than the previous one. There are unexpected and sometimes
anticipated triggers that lead to setbacks. Examples of potential triggers include: baby showers, birth experience
stories, new babies, OB/GYN office visits, nursing mothers, thoughtless comments, holidays, and family